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Dealing with Disappointment...

dwinhold

Hello community,

 

I haven't seen this ever brought up before, so I figured I would talk about it.

 

Scenario:

 

So I competed in a challenge and created what I proposed. My design worked great, went that extra mile with my creation. Posted many blogs and followed the rules of the competition. I was very proud of my accomplishment figuring, "I have got this, how can I not win!!".

 

Result day, I have to see what I won (Since I had to win). WHAT? How could I not win? This isn't fair.. image

 

I'm sure I am not the only one who has felt this way (If I am, I'd be surprised).

 

Stages of not winning:

First comes disappointment (about 10 minutes of this stage)

Then the "So unfair" stage. How did I not win, I had this. What were the judges thinking?

Stage 3, I don't want to compete anymore. Why should I compete, create the perfect project and still lose.

Stage 4, after felling sorry for myself for a few days I start thinking, "What did I do wrong?".

Final stage, read in detail every competitors blogs (especially the winners) and see what they did differently.

 

After spending days reading the blogs I realized, "My project was great, I learned a lot, but it wasn't winning material". Reading the winning blogs made me realize how far off the mark I was. Sure my project was the best in my mind, but my blogs, videos and photos were sub-par. Lacking the fine details that could have made it a winning project. The winners of the challenge more then deserved it, great blogs, impressive videos and photos.

 

Boy do I feel like an ass, the way I felt about loosing. I suffered from the sore loser syndrome.

 

What did I learn?

So what did I learn? Well, I learned so much from my project and my abilities greatly improved. After reading the other competitors blogs, I learned a bit more about how to create better blogs of my own. It was my own fault, not the judges for not winning. For me to think that the reason I didn't win was everyone else's fault and not my own now makes me feel real bad. The winners deserved to win (Great job to all the competitors).

 

In closing, there are reasons for how well I did in any challenge and to learn how to improve for the next one.

 

I hope I am not alone on this,

 

Dale W

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  • I think most, if not all, of us have had similar feelings. The things that interest the community vary and some of the blogs and projects I was most proud of received little interest. That is not to say they are not worthwhile though.

    I think you are on to something in your section on “what did I learn.”  There are members here on element14 that could seemingly write about just about anything and make it interesting.  They are skilled at technical writing / presentation and I have shamelessly tried to incorporated some of their techniques. As well, I am sure they found the topic interesting which found its way into their work.

    I wouldn’t say it was your fault for not winning though. Completing something that you were proud of and putting it out there is more than many in the world did that day. My proposal for vibration sensing wasn’t accepted and after reading the projects that were I can see why.  And vibration analysis is an area where I have some work background.

    I am glad you are looking forward to the next project.  I am always learning something new here and so many have helped me over the years.

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  • I think most, if not all, of us have had similar feelings. The things that interest the community vary and some of the blogs and projects I was most proud of received little interest. That is not to say they are not worthwhile though.

    I think you are on to something in your section on “what did I learn.”  There are members here on element14 that could seemingly write about just about anything and make it interesting.  They are skilled at technical writing / presentation and I have shamelessly tried to incorporated some of their techniques. As well, I am sure they found the topic interesting which found its way into their work.

    I wouldn’t say it was your fault for not winning though. Completing something that you were proud of and putting it out there is more than many in the world did that day. My proposal for vibration sensing wasn’t accepted and after reading the projects that were I can see why.  And vibration analysis is an area where I have some work background.

    I am glad you are looking forward to the next project.  I am always learning something new here and so many have helped me over the years.

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