The goal of a stealth fighter is not to reflect any signals in the direction of the signal source (Radar station) All incoming signals must be absorbed or reflected to a wide spread area. Wideband antennas that are well matched lead all incoming signals to the (50 Ohm) load. The best way is to use a wideband antenna and a receiver front end giving a good match over a wide frequency band. For further improvement, the radar reflecting surface of antennas can be made small. When a stealth fighter is transmitting, it can easily be detected by directional finder receivers, (not by radar systems). Antennas can be made as a slot in the metal frame, covered with a radio transparent surface. Stealth airplanes need several receivers and transmitters for contact with the tower during departure and landing and to avoid collisions when flying in crowded areas.
Take a look at solid state plasma antennas. They can dynamically tune themselves to needed frequencies and they have minimal radar cross sections when not active.
As for stealth in general http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stealth_technology